A BIRD IN HAND...........

Lately I have been speaking to married couples and most of them have a negative view on marriage. Many of the people I spoke to regardless of the duration of co habitation, never said a positive side of being married. This leaves me wondering if man will ever be in a position to shed his nature of always seeking what’s beyond reach. Some seek perfection, some seek “better partners”, and some seek the reasons why they can’t be happy. all in all our nature on not appreciating the beautiful bird we have at hand and always seeking the two in the bush is not easy to get rid of..

Let’s get this straight; I am not a relationship therapist but I like to reason with the simple facts before my eyes. When two people decide to live together and create a family, they come from different backgrounds, up bringing, belief and even though they may have common beliefs and love, the bottom line is that these two people decide to join as one. It’s not an easy task. It’s a task that will need assimilation into each others lives and tradition, means compromise and above all it means they stop acting as individuals in the eyes of the society. They become one.

It’s not easy to compromise and it’s not easy to give in unconditionally and stop thinking of self. But do we think of these factors when choosing our partners? Do we seek guidance (for some people it’s from God, some Allah), learn from our past experiences and find out what we really want in a partner?

At the end of it all we make decisions and we become part of other people’s lives and future. We could either break them or build them. Trust me its much fulfilling to build someone than to break them. To see a spark and smile in the eyes of your beloved is a fulfillment of its own kind.

For the people who are married and have made the decision to be part of other people lives, think of the things that made you love your partners and work to keep them alive. Work to build the man or woman who stand s beside you; work to make the person who wakes beside you smile; times when it’s not a bed of roses, talk about it…. Don’t seek what is lurking outside in the bush..

A bird in hand is the gift you have today; don’t let it go…….